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Don’t Let Perfect Be the Enemy of Good: How I Finally Confronted My Perfectionism and Stopped Being Afraid to Fail

It has been my intention for quite some time to add a blog to this space so that I can share more about who I am, my photography journey, the “behind the scenes” of being a work-at-home-mom, and highlights from each session.  Part of my struggle has been that I am an introvert and a very private person, and sharing pieces of myself on a blog feels… vulnerable.

Every time I think I’m ready to start, I begin to doubt myself: What if what I write is just not that interesting? What if no one reads what I write? What if no one really cares?

As I approach my 30th birthday, I’ve been reflecting on where I am in my life and my business and thinking about what I see for myself in this new decade of life.

A lot has changed in the last few years, starting with the decision not to renew my teaching contract and instead to pursue my dream of starting a photography business. Then, a year and a half later, I became a mom.

To be completely honest, I’ve struggled to find my identity as a new mom while also balancing a household, a marriage, and a business—all while not losing sight of who I am outside of all of that.

Back in March, I pushed myself outside my comfort zone and submitted an essay to a motherhood blog that had an open call for submissions. This was a big deal for me because not only was I making myself vulnerable by writing about a deeply personal experience, but I was also opening myself up to failure and disappointment if my essay was not accepted for publication.  As a perfectionist, this was huge for me because the biggest way my perfectionism rears its ugly head is avoiding failure. 

This week, I received an email notification that unfortunately, my essay did not fit what they’re looking for right now.  Truthfully, it was a bummer. I knew that the likelihood of my piece being selected was probably narrow, but of course I was hopeful, especially considering how much of my heart and soul I had put into it!  And it truly was a labor of love—I wrote and revised, and wrote and revised again, and wrestled with the right words, and then wrote some more until I felt that I had something that was just right. (See? There’s that perfectionism…)  The rejection wasn’t personal, but when you put that much of yourself into something, it still feels a little personal to learn that it didn’t check all the right boxes.

After the initial disappointment, I reminded myself how important writing the essay had been. Years ago, I would journal to help myself process things.  In a similar way, writing that essay helped me work through some struggles I have been having in my journey of motherhood. It also surprised me in that it revealed ways in which my struggle with perfectionism has affected the way I have perceived and measured my success as a mother. Through writing, I was able to give a name to struggles I have been wrestling with under the surface for months, and now that they’re out there, I have really started to be able to work through them.

Taking the plunge and clicking “submit” on that essay was also a good exercise in “failure” because—even though I will admit that I had moments while I was writing where I wanted to give up—putting such a deeply personal essay out there for potential rejection was really, really hard!  But I DID IT, and in doing so I did not allow myself to give in to the fear of failure, and even though my piece was rejected, I survived.

And this brings me to this space. This blog. One of my fellow photographers posted this quote on Instagram recently: “Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.” I found it shortly after I wrote that essay, and it hit me so perfectly that I wrote it on a sticky note and stuck it to the top of my computer monitor to remind me to keep going, even when I don’t feel like what I’m doing is “perfect.”

I know that for me, the hardest part is often getting started, so here I am, taking my first step into this new venture.  I hope you’ll join me for the ride!

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Hey, I’m Nicole!

Columbia, SC Newborn, Maternity, & Family Photographer

I’m a sentimental mom of two with a heart for helping moms like you have a stress-free photography experience. I’m here to help you feel comfortable and confident in front of the camera and capture beautiful photos to tell the story of this season of life.

Serving Columbia, SC & the surrounding areas